How do you know that a man is aroused? It would seem that the answer is obvious! His pulse quickens and his trousers bulge treacherously. After all, he is a man, and they are always in a state of arousal, right? No, not true.
Men may be thinking about sex 24/7 (studies show men have sexual thoughts about every ten seconds), but that doesn't mean he's ready to rip your clothes off right now.
Stages of male arousal
There are four stages of sexual desire. Each of which causes many physical changes in the male body, including the brain, penis and testicles.
Excitation.
During the first stage of the sexual response cycle, the brain starts a chemical process that causes the penis to become erect or hard. This is because blood flows into the penis, causing the tissues in it to expand.
The scrotum also becomes denser, and the heart rate and breathing process increase. The nipples may harden and muscles throughout the body begin to tighten.
Plateau.
In the second stage, the changes mentioned above become more pronounced. The testicles begin to move towards the body and increase in size. Blood pressure also rises.
Orgasm.
The third stage is the climax stage, when a man experiences an orgasm and ejaculation. This is the shortest phase and usually lasts only a few seconds. When he ejaculates, the muscles at the base of the penis tense and contract, as well as pushing the semen out of the penis. There is a rapid relaxation of the muscle tension that has arisen in the early stages of the sexual response cycle.
Resolution phase.
Fourth and final stage. The penis becomes smaller, returning to its normal size. Respiration, heart rate and blood pressure also return to normal. The man may feel tired.
To experience an orgasm again immediately after ejaculation will not work, you will have to wait a bit to recover. Unfortunately, men, unlike women, this option is not available.
Signs by which you can understand that he is aroused
To the question: "How to understand that a man is excited? "- every girl will confidently answer that he always gives out an erection. In fact, everything is not as primitive as it seems.
Non-verbal cues
There are some non-verbal body signals that speak better than any spoken word about a man's sexual state:
- during a conversation, he involuntarily moves closer to the object of his attention. Gradually, the distance between the bodies inevitably decreases. This is followed by a light touch of hands and feet. This gesture will not require active action, it will be almost invisible. But that's how passion can start;
- if there is a woman nearby that a man wants, he will try to touch her, hug her. But what if circumstances don't allow it? Then he begins to unbutton his collar, straighten his tie, touch buttons, ruffle his hair.
When sexual arousal occurs, the guy automatically starts stroking and twirling in his hand the object that fell into his hand, in the form of a cylinder. Be it a pen, a glass, etc. This is no longer a signal, but a call to action.
Civility phase
If a man expresses sexual sympathy for a woman, then he will definitely attribute it to his behavior. If the meeting takes place in a restaurant, he will pour a glass of wine and offer a snack, while helping to sit in and out of a chair.
He will do all this not only thanks to a good upbringing. With his actions, the gentleman masks the instincts of the masculine principle - to have more opportunities to touch the object of his desire. His worried expression shows that the young man is clearly planning not only to have dinner, but also to have breakfast together.
Pose of a man
Realizing that the girl is sexually interesting, the internal switch of the conqueror of women's hearts switches to the "alpha male" mode.
And here the movements begin to speak of the man's preferences: tense abdominal muscles, a straight back (suggests good physical shape), turning of the shoulders, in a sitting position, legs wide apart. Such a gesture clearly shows that he has something to offer a woman.
physical reactions
- Rapid breathing, dilated pupils, a parted mouth, a slightly hoarse voice are the very conditional signals that the man’s brain is now working in a certain direction.
- Slightly flared nostrils, this seems to be how the animals pick up the scent of the female.
- Thirst appears, which is associated with an increase in body temperature at the time of arousal.
- The tone of his voice changes. Oooh, how exciting his voice sounds when he's on edge. Men have been known to lower their tone of voice (subconsciously, of course) to attract the one they dream of being in the same bed with.
- A slight blush appears on the face. Yes, at the time of sexual arousal, rushes of blood are observed not only in the groin area.
- He smiles broadly. An excited man is always in a positive mood next to the woman he likes. Take a closer look, is that an annoyed smile? Fake smile? Or a smile with a smirk: "I-just-want-to-take-off-you-all-clothes-right-now"? We hope this is the last option.
- Often touches the chin, touches the nose, ears. According to psychologists, by stimulating these zones, a man is trying to mask reflex nervousness. When excited, the skin of the face becomes very sensitive to the touch.
- There is pressure in his touch. Have you noticed that his arms hug you a little tighter than usual? When a guy is aroused, he tries to be as close to you as possible. And it also means that he really wants you. But social norms prevent him from lashing out at you right now.
- When a man is seized with passion, he loses control over his gestures and words. With a clouded, wandering look, even the most sane guy begins to talk such nonsense that the girl may doubt his adequacy. It's simple - at the moment of arousal, the processed information does not enter the male brain at all.
- Licks lips. This gesture is actually an automatic reaction, something he cannot control. When he's really aroused, he licks or bites his lips.
- A sign of a state of excitement is also a deviation from the topic of conversation towards intimacy. An erotic association may arise in him even when discussing everyday things.
- He has an erection. Well, that's the obvious and most direct sign that you're turning him on. What happens next is up to you.
The main sign of male arousal is an erection. Seriously, no matter how obvious it may sound, the "button" in the head very quickly works for the guys, which launches the necessary processes below the belt. And it's great! In addition to an erection, a man's heart rate increases, his pupils dilate, breathing becomes much more frequent. The look changes: it becomes as lustful and excited as possible. Believe me, it is almost impossible not to notice male arousal. The guy will definitely let you understand this with his whole appearance. Male arousal is obvious!